One of the blogs that I follow posted a very direct statement of concern with a church leader. I could sense the hurt and pain that led to the post.
I have been badly hurt by church leadership in the past. And here is what I have learned through that experience.
We can become a victim of the sinful, selfish, and hurtful acts of those in and around our lives including those in leadership in a church. And sometimes we choose to remain a victim when we have the opportunity to move on.
It takes courage to confront the issue and to seek reconciliation even if the other person is not mature enough to recognize the issue or to admit the hurtful act. Confront in love. Apologize for your own actions. And move on.
It is a waste of our potential to fixate on how things could have been or should have been. And it is not right to carry the hurt indefinitely over a long period of time.
It is not an easy thing to do. When we are hurt we expect our church leaders to care and to protect. And sometimes they do not. Just remember that God’s grace is greater than our hurt.
From 2 Corinthians 12:9:
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”