I have lived in large cities for most of my life. Until about seven years ago when we moved to a small town just north of the GTA.
I completed a Natural Church Development survey yesterday. And the first question was how many times I get together with people from the church. The answer is pretty much zero. I might have four or five social contacts a year.
There has been a disconnect for me with my local church which is more apparent now. Like the small town I live in, it seems to be more of a stranger than a friend.
Perhaps that is the issue with working and living in two different communities. You can never really be part of both. I spend most of my week in Toronto. And, the day or two that I have at home each week is usually crammed with commitments. After seven years, I still do not know my way around this small town. I sleep there. I spend a bit of time there. I work somewhere else.
Thankfully, my family is better connected.