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I need to take a course in relationship management. I think I am losing a friendship that is important to me.
And I have no idea what to do about it.
Does your friend know how important they are to you?
……or have you assumed they know that they are important to you?
Although I am no expert, I am a relational person and if a relationship is important to me I agressively fight to preserve it.
It’s easier to keep a good friend (especially an important one) than to make a new friend.
I’ll pray for you!
Hello Ann. In word and action, yes. Pride and ego can often cloud judgment. Sometimes the need to win at any cost, and the need to be right, is viewed as most important. And, sadly, this relatively common human failing creates a barrier that, to me at least, seems almost impossible to cross.
If the need to be right and win is more important to your friend than your friendship, you need a new friend.
I too have been battling this issue. I have put my needs aside, spent idle time in hopes of breaking through, allowed unacceptable comments all in hopes that a breakthrough moment would come as like you I am wanting to cross through the barrier created then made worse by all these actions. Unfortunately, all efforts on both our parts have resulted in a lack of desire on my part for this person. I find it difficult to proceed with my efforts just for the sake of what we once were. At this juncture I have realized that what I want in friendship is far more intimate and heartfelt than what the two of us have today. Will we ever get back what we once had – doubtfull. Could we attain a level we never had through honesty, respect and love – hopefull. Do we give up – shamefull. Is it real – ?